When looking out, we can not see through the eyes of other people or know what demons they have slain, how good or bad the journey has been for them.
Do I need to know their past to accept that they can understand intrinsically what I or another is going through?
No, it helps make us less embarrassed, ashamed or scared to share things if we know that those who are listening have some experience/knowledge with our situation and are not looking down on us…for whatever reason.
One of the things that isolates us from help, or possible friendship, is shame, fear, embarrassment and stigma.
I was talking to one of my counselors this week and something she had not realized, even though she did say that when she revealed she had been conned out of a small amount of money to co-workers in a meeting, some people looked at her differently, as if she was kinda stupid. However, when I pointed out that in today’s world 9 times out of 10, people admire the person that stole the money or whatever…they kinda smile and say clever devil (or something along those lines) while looking at you as if it was your fault.
It’s something that people do as for some reason they admire the not Robin Hood con artists and cheats.
After all, we all like to think and say that we are smart and not likely to get “taken in” by anyone.
How much of looking down at the victim is from that little desire to be superior to someone else? How much is admiration for a liar, cheat and confidence artist?
How about we change the stereotype a little, Robin Hood these people are not.
The devastation they cause is more than anything you have seen portrayed on Television.
You likely won’t hear it because the victims are looked down on, and the criminal is admired.
Somehow, that view needs to change…and the crime needs to be looked on as what it is.
Destroying people’s lives.
But then that is just my viewpoint.
About time we support the victim and berate the crook, instead of admire their clever skills.