Breaking common conception. Shoot the stereotype.

When looking out, we can not see through the eyes of other people or know what demons they have slain, how good or bad the journey has been for them.

Do I need to know their past to accept that they can understand intrinsically what I or another is going through?

No, it helps make us less embarrassed, ashamed or scared to share things if we know that those who are listening have some experience/knowledge with our situation and are not looking down on us…for whatever reason.

One of the things that isolates us from help, or possible friendship, is shame, fear, embarrassment and stigma.

I was talking to one of my counselors this week and something she had not realized, even though she did say that when she revealed she had been conned out of a small amount of money to co-workers in a meeting, some people looked at her differently, as if she was kinda stupid.  However, when I pointed out that in today’s world 9 times out of 10, people admire the person that stole the money or whatever…they kinda smile and say clever devil (or something along those lines) while looking at you as if it was your fault.

It’s something that people do as for some reason they admire the not Robin Hood con artists and cheats.

After all, we all like to think and say that we are smart and not likely to get “taken in” by anyone.

How much of looking down at the victim is from that little desire to be superior to someone else?  How much is admiration for a liar, cheat and confidence artist?

How about we change the stereotype a little, Robin Hood these people are not.

The devastation they cause is more than anything you have seen portrayed on Television.

You likely won’t hear it because the victims are looked down on, and the criminal is admired.

Somehow, that view needs to change…and the crime needs to be looked on as what it is.

Destroying people’s lives.

But then that is just my viewpoint.

About time we support the victim and berate the crook, instead of admire their clever skills.

 

 

 

Why are there laws?

People.

I use to look around at the people I knew and think they were reasonable, law abiding and decent for the most part.

I knew of people that put their toes over the lines a little but I did not really have anything to do with them.

I have discovered some things that I never really wanted to discover and it makes me sad but by now I am not so very surprised.

Someone once asked me why, for the most part, I am in favor of the Police and most of that is, because they do the things that need doing for those who can’t do them, themselves.

You see, most people will never come across those who kill, rape, abuse, or will take everything they have, over and over, and not feel anything other than totally entitled.

The thing that I did not know until I discovered what some particular people were like behind those nice facades, was that people breaking the rules or laws, are not always as dumb as people like to think.

Seriously, some people know exactly what they can do and not get caught.

If your expecting them to feel empathy, remorse or to care one iota, they don’t.  In fact in some cases, they like to inflict mental and emotional pain on top of stealing everything someone has and deceiving them.

It makes them feel superior to accomplish the deed…and have you know they did it and got away with it.

I guess some people come by it honestly, in one instance I know of,  their father was a gambler, bigamist and thief.  Their grandfather was so pristine and shiny that he could claim to know the Krays and have em round the house for a visit.  They all grew up moving from country to country, scamming, stealing and claiming whatever government benefits they could (in more than one country at a time), the dad would change jobs and countries, marry, steal from the women, then return to his wife back in England.

Now the thing to realize is, these folk have all the things worked out on what they can get away with, and who will care about what they do. Who is likely to kick up a stink about what has happened.

That is why they do it the way they do.

So contemplate for a moment if the few laws that they do not break were not in existence?

You see like chameleons they can fit into their surroundings, there is no warning sign, no “danger Will Robinson” , there is just the snake charmer and the prey.

Oh yes I know that could not be you, could it.

The thing that amazes me most about people is, how many admire those that do what these people do.

Why is it that people think those who prey on others are so cool or smart?

Because this time it was not you and you don’t think it can happen to you?

Bravo for the con man, cheer on the thief, don’t blame the player…unless you are the one being played, robbed and losing everything you own because you trusted the wrong person.

It is sad, in this day and age, for people to cheer on the thief and disdain the victim.

I had a friend say that she contemplated suicide, being trapped inside such a web and losing everything, unable to get away she viewed her options as few or nonexistent…but as my friend said…then they would get away with driving her to kill herself without fear of repercussion.

I must say I admire her resolve, so much more so now than I did at the time, however I never looked kindly on the persons who put her in that position, while others blamed her for it.

We all live in an ocean of predators, with a few lifeguards we call police sparsely spaced about and some of the predators have the lay of the land down pat, so appreciate the lifeguards for what they can and do for you.

Some parts of the ocean you really do not want a close of view of, in so many different areas, my view is only on one.

The trick is not in realizing what is going on, it is accepting you can’t do anything about it, and surviving the extrication process somehow.

The predators have already moved on and your already just a spec in the rear view mirror that will soon be gone.