Why is it that everyone discusses the weather?
Ok, a few of us consider that a subject to avoid if possible because it is too common and cliche, however the reason everyone can discuss the weather is, it is common ground.
Alright, it is true that not everyone can commiserate about a Canadian Prairie Winter, but as an icebreaker how sunny, rainy, windy, gorgeous or hideous it is outside is an icebreaker (conversationally speaking).
It is beautiful outside, if you enjoy toasting in sun and sweating through humidity.
The weather is not the only common ground we have, it can’t be, but sometimes the way people act you would think that it is.
I have a lot of empathy, perhaps more than I should have but I am sure that I am not the only one to look out a window and think that people spend too much time seeing the differences, widening the gap between them and others without realizing that we have more common ground than just the weather.
Can a millionaire commiserate with me over not having money, food, clothes? Well with a few exceptions I am certain there must be a few that started out with little or nothing so ya, I think some can.
It is true, we spend so much time trying to excel at individuality that we forget those things that keeps everyone connected.
Lets face it, someone from Florida is not going to understand a Manitoba winter, heck some places do not even include block heaters as standard equipment on their vehicles as they are here.
So what other things keep us connected?
Hmmm depends on the person, we do not all share the same enthusiasms, loves or tolerances of other beings or things.
I am no better than anyone else.
I can not read minds.
So conversation and interaction are the venues which allow us to discover that common ground.